Relationships have always puzzled  me.  Most often I see them as  a form relationof control. One person tries to control the other person and tries  to mold him /her to meet his /her own needs. It is a constant battle. The expectations are endless and no one wins .

Long ago  I read that by themselves man and woman are only half a circle. They constantly seek each  other  to become a full circle. But it seems instead of becoming a perfect full  circle often people try to suck  each  other  in to his/her own half circle to fulfill his/her unmet needs and when two people do the same a battle begins and it continues.

Why it is soo difficult to accept the other person as she  or he is…Why do we expect and demand  that the other person  should be molded to meet our own needs ..Why  is  it that  our needs are endless.. I don’t know

Every time  when I experience a relationship, it makes me more conscious of my own  unfulfilled needs and the  desperate desire to fulfill my own needs and my conscious and unconscious battle to mold the other person in my own way to full fill this  . The  me within this selfish me  questions my soul and I  can see that I haven’t grown at all…

To  become  a contented and peaceful person and thus experience a  contented  and  happy relationship  still remains as a dream. May be it is a mirage. After all humans are self centered creatures and the purpose of  life may be to fulfill one’s own needs..…

who knows…

still….നിന്റെ സ്നേഹത്തിൽ നിന്നാണ് ഞാൻ സ്നേഹും എന്താണന്നു അറിയുന്നത് ,ഒപ്പം  ഞാൻ ആരെന്നും എന്തെന്നും  🙂
( still…It is from your love that i know what love is and whom and what  i am )

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  1. Brilliant writing. I am sure everyone would have experienced the same at least once in the lifetime. I must admit, I have been there a million times.

    Had it been such that we did not get to experience that bridling of relationships, endless expectations, desperate desires, unfulfilled needs, unconscious battles and unbound emotions… how barren this life would have been!

    Everything that was/is/will be there, was/is/will be there for a reason. Sometimes known, sometimes unknown…but ignored at times!

    Shoving away the ties of relationships or the control one put on another (knowingly/unknowingly) if we tend to fancy a contented life, I am sure it’s gonna get nowhere. If so, we wouldn’t be humans anymore.

    I think, “contented life” is indeed a mirage we created our own. Happiness and contentment are relatives and were our partners once, as kids. As we grew up, we either forgot it or let it go. We constantly seek “something better” or “something beyond” and fail to discover the real pearls of our life. As contented little bugs we relished the joy of every silly thing, besides seeking beyond and better.

    P.S: Loved the last tine. That sums up it all!

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